Stimming and Visible Self-Calming Behaviors with Autism

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Stimming is one of the “stereotypical” autistic behaviors. Many people think of people with autism as folks who constantly flap their hand or rock back and forth. Those behaviors are called “stimming”, which is a motion that interacts with the senses to help calm an autistic person down (self calming) if they feel overwhelmed by the environment.


Stimming is harmless, and isn’t just hand flapping or rocking. It can manifest in many different ways, but again, is all harmless.

There have been a couple of cases where a child was reported to bite or pinch, but those behaviors can be redirected away from other people. Instead the child can pinch a pillow or even bite their own shirt. I actually do bite the collar of my shirt if I’m really freaking out, but would never ever hurt another person, I wouldn’t want the germs!

The behaviors can be “unusual”, and sometimes “freaky” to an observer who doesn’t know anything about autism, especially stimming which is different from the stereotypical hand flapping or rocking. I used to be made fun of for twirling my hair or rubbing my nose (another stim).

Unless it’s a danger to someone, stimming shouldn’t be interrupted.

I recall babysitting for someone who had an autistic child, who wanted me to try to get the child to stop rocking back and forth. That’s the wrong mindset, as the child is doing that as a way of calming down. Perhaps it can be redirected to less noticeable stimming. I’m no psychologist, so I wouldn’t know how to do that; I’m sure others would. But trying to put a stop to it will increase frustration and stress levels in the child and, as a result, probably increase stress levels in the adults around the child.

by Nikki J.

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Nikki is the creator of the webcomic “AuTalkz”. She has Asperger’s Syndrome and found relief from panic attacks by doodling. Nikki wanted to make a comic which went back to the “bare basics” of past comics: ones l like Calvin & Hobbes which could teach lessons and procure laughter without the use of bad language and-or graphic violence….she called this comic strip “AuTalkz“. “The idea was for the opinions and comedy to come from the viewpoint of someone with ASD. I decided to branch out and do something I’ve always wanted to do: Help people understand autism. My hope is that my comic can help promote understanding, particularly teachers who have students on the spectrum, parents who have children on the spectrum, and even kids and workers who have classmates and co-workers on the spectrum”. We would agree and are proud to feature Nikki and her fabulous work, AuTalkz, on

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  1. What a great channel for stress and a wonderful use of your skills Nikki! Helping others through art is lovely and always something I am looking to do.